When a man reaches climax very soon after beginning intercourse, it can be frustrating and stressful. The more often it happens, the more anxious he may feel each time he’s about to make love with his partner. He may feel embarrassed and worried about what his spouse thinks and it could wreak havoc on his confidence. It’s a vicious circle of anxiety that simply makes premature ejaculation (PE) worse. Even if he has an understanding and supportive wife, he would probably like their lovemaking sessions to last longer. Also, over time consistent PE may lead to problems such as erectile dysfunction.
When done correctly and practiced over time, PE can be controlled since it isn’t usually a medical problem, but is more of a psychological and physiological issue. By learning a few techniques to control PE, most men will find that they last longer during intercourse and their anxiety ultimately fades away.
- Avoid sex for at least a week or two, or even longer. This may seem counterproductive to working on premature ejaculation, but if a man isn’t focused on sex or worrying about how he’ll perform, he can then work on the issue. Waiting to have sex for a while also helps to relieve any built up anxiety related to sex. Once he feels less stressed he can then have sex and see if this break has helped with his PE.
- One easy way to combat premature ejaculation is for the man to focus on how he feels right when he’s beginning to reach his peak while making love. When he gets too excited he should slow down his thrusting movements and breathe slow and deep through his nose, then let it out slowly. He should try to match the rhythm of his breathing with the rhythm of his pelvis. This can help him take his mind off climaxing too quickly and will give him a chance to calm down. When practiced consistently over time, it will be easy to detect when climax is approaching and slow down before it happens so that lovemaking can be prolonged.
- Another method is to simply stop having intercourse and focus on more foreplay or the man offering his partner oral sex. This will allow his wife to be sexually satisfied, along with giving him a chance to calm down and enjoy sex longer. Once she’s satisfied, he can begin making love again and feel confident that his partner was pleased. This is one of the main reasons PE bothers so many couples; the wife isn’t sexually satisfied if her husband reaches climax too quickly. By taking time out to please her first there’s no fear of that happening and the couple can make love as usual whether the man reaches climax soon or not.
Premature ejaculation is something that a man can learn to control. Feeling anxious and stressed about PE will only make matters worse. By practicing some of the above tips, or all of them, most men should soon find that they do last longer while making love.
